Pointing Fingers

Sometimes I wonder if its in human nature to point fingers, criticize people whenever they do something wrong. This somewhat harmless move sometimes may have that condescending effect.
Applying onto Christians, I sometimes see myself very quick in forming negative and somewhat 'doubts' on other Christians for their conduct or/and actions. Sometimes such thoughts in the mind translate to words which will eventually spread like "wildfire" throughout the Church in the subtle form of gossip. That may result in some serious stumbling for that particular Christian.
Today's message (Col 2:16-23) to me seems to stand out in that there should be a case for working on what is inside so that your outside is right. Legalism imposed standards and 'laws' that are to be adhered to, in an attempt to ensure or make sure their people are all 'one'.(I guess the differences in standard set up with or without that inward manifestation of that righteousness is because of changing values and culture, from the very conservative Chinese to the somewhat more liberal Westerners. Globalisation has make us see and 'judge' on what is an acceptable standard.)
Mysticism and the extreme act of self-denial are other points that are false outward showing or mark of believers.

God is teaching me that although we are in no ground to make any judgement at all. We are to show love to Christians by showing them their mistakes in the most humble of way. Its never about looking down on people because they do many not so right things, while you are better off because you do not do this things. (etc. a brethren pick up smoking, you rebuke him on grounds that you think smoking is not right and to the extent you question on his 'salvation')
Of course, the pre-requisite of showing a brethren his mistakes is that you yourself is right with God. Approach him with the most humble of spirit, show him his mistakes by pointing them out (I think its better to do it in private), and then lead him to know that God is faithful in forgiving.

I always remember that each time you point a finger at someone, 4 other fingers is pointed back at yourself. Read up on 'Resisting the devil' by Watchman Nee. 1 Peter 5 sort of shows how if we are to humble and submit to one another, God will lift us up.
The devil is lurking, planting many evil thoughts in our mind. If we are to stand by the truth, this truth shall surely set us free from Satan's grip. (John 8:32)